When did you last give positive attention to your most significant relationship?.
This lively, practical and experiential workshop is designed for partners to enjoy focussing on each other away from all the usual pressures. Exercises are designed to expand communication, deepen connection and access more pleasure and fun.
Erich Fromm once wrote, “There is only one proof for the presence of love: the depth of the relationship, and the aliveness and strength in each person concerned; this is the fruit by which love is recognised.”
It’s also Fromm who famously said that love, “isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.”
It’s too easy to get so caught up in our busy lives that we don’t attend well to ourselves or attune to our partner, and so do little to nurture the relationship.
“Enjoy the little things in life because one day you’ll look back
and realise they were the big things
We can better balance our responsibilities and commitments and feel more satisfaction when we’re attend to our love relationship, and in doing so, we are also tending our own emotional needs.
- Discover healthy ways of expressing needs
- Glimpse how your childhoods impact the current relationship
- Learn new ways of communicating and attuning
- Be inspired to do more of what works, and change what doesn’t
- Understand normal conflict and get better at repair
- Revive your curiosity in each other
And importantly, learn how to create and sustain positive change.
The reality is that many couples get stuck in unconscious cycles that reinforce negative behaviours that undermine the relationship and their confidence in repairing it. The good news is that once we know better and become more conscious, we will have effective new ways of improving connection and satisfying our deepest needs.The purpose of doing couples work is to increase your understanding about yourself, your partner and the patterns of interaction between you. Experiencing your couple dynamic from a fresh perspective and growing your understanding, while applying new knowledge can change ineffective cycles and allow you to create a closer connection.
“Love is friendship that has caught fire.
It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”
Please note this is not suitable for couples in high conflict, suffering trauma or in distress. These people are well advised to seek professional help.